Bananas, Hands Alone, and Working with Fear

Bananas, Hands Alone, and Working with Fear

I've been thinking a lot lately about musicians and fear. I've always had a fascination with performance anxiety. That's why, as a student attending one of my first professional conferences, I was so excited to see a panel session on the topic. This is my jam, I...

You’re Doing Great Because You’re You

You’re Doing Great Because You’re You

When my Uncle Joe passed away from a brain tumor at the age of 39, the last thing he said to me was: "Just be patient. Everything is going to be OK." I thought he was referring to how painful it all was on our family. I had no idea he was offering me my life's mantra....

The Case for Bootstraps

The Case for Bootstraps

I've never liked the expression, "Pull yourself up by your bootstraps." While we all need motivation sometimes, it's a pet peeve of mine when feelings are invalidated. I'm a feeler. And I'm protective of those feelings. "Bootstraps" annoys me. I file it in the same...

Are You a Musical “Householder?”

Are You a Musical “Householder?”

I still have much to learn about the Tibetan Buddhist lineages in which I study, but a term I discovered last week opened my eyes: "Householder." A householder is a layperson, or non-monastic. Their goal is to apply what they gain in meditation practice to...

A Trio of Brave Hearts Looks Fear in the Eye

A Trio of Brave Hearts Looks Fear in the Eye

When I need to channel courage, I think of my grandparents. In 1955, my grandmother defied her mother, who had forbade her from marrying my grandfather. She took a train to South Carolina, where he was stationed, and they eloped on the army base. They moved back to...